How does speech anxiety affect you?
You only need to think of a speech or presentation situation and you become irritable, insecure, perhaps angry or furious with yourself.
Some people condemn themselves for this “inability” and are hard on themselves, even feel inferior and therefore have little self-confidence.
You may not be able to think clearly in speaking situations, have an emptiness in your mind. Then the simplest things no longer occur to you and there are word-finding problems. And then an inner voice makes everything worse:
“I hope no one notices my insecurity! This is going to be another embarrassment! Help! I mustn’t lose my train of thought under any circumstances! I’ll be laughed at…”
Some of my clients have been plagued by images of listeners becoming openly bored, asking awkward interjections, leaving the room one by one as they watch helplessly, desperately searching for the right words.
Others had trouble falling asleep and staying asleep for days and weeks before a presentation, speech or meeting because of it. And the closer the situation came, the more restless and tense they became. Shortly beforehand, they had to go to the toilet, with or without a stomach ache, and then they had to go in front of the audience with a racing heart and a frog in their throat. That goes wrong. And that’s where avoidance strategies may begin. But: